This is the final edit of these thoughts on the last day of the first year of my 8th decade of breathing air…you do the math. As usual if you have any comments or questions I’m glad to go for breakfast or coffee and chat.
One of the great traditions at Grain of Wheat Church-Community, my faith community, is during Sunday worship we acknowledge birthdays and other celebrations and usually give the birthday person a chance to select a song; which the congregation then sings … if there’s time and the musicians know it. For many years I’ve picked Jim Croegaert’s I Want to Walk With You Jesus. Jim sings it on the album House of Peace https://youtu.be/sYH-ONMD7Io?si=sbJlCwBwgQJaT-8z
1. I want to walk with you Jesus. / Show me the road and I’ll go. / There’s much that I cling to and don’t want to leave / That I’m better off without I know.
Chorus: I have so far to go do you mind / if I rest here and unload my mind. / Thank you for life. / Thank you for sharing a love divine.
2. I want to walk with you. Jesus. / Reasons don’t really begin / to tell why a desert cries out for some rain / why I cry for your water within.
Chorus:
3. I want to walk with you Jesus. / Show me the road and I’ll go. / I look to the valleys. I look to the hills. / I look to the sky and I know…
I have so far to go. Do you mind / if I rest here and unload my mind. / Thank you for life. Thank you for sharing a love divine.
Like many of Jim’s songs there are a lot of meaningful words, sometimes too many IMHO. This year when I did a Musica Divina with I Want to Walk With You Jesus, the 2nd verse stood out for me.
2. I want to walk with you Jesus. / Reasons don’t really begin / to tell why a desert cries out for some rain / why I cry for your water within.
The desert’s the cry for rain is more extreme than the desire of my soul for Love AND without Her presence I know that I’d soon would become a dry and crusty old man. Nowadays I’m very grateful for the daily gift of Love in my life. I’m reminded of a Manitoba summer, green from the spring and summer rains and warm sun. Full of life. Life that includes the many mosquitoes of frustration, inconveniences and bad drivers. Sometimes there’s too much rain and sun but I really can’t complain knowing what’s coming in a few months.
Enough Musica Divina … I’ve chosen this song over the years primarily because of the chorus.
I have so far to go. Do you mind / if I rest here and unload my mind. / Thank you for life. Thank you for sharing a love divine.
This year I was given a chance to share, in worship, why I chose this song again. I was able to let those of the community present and online know that I’ve come to appreciate the “walk with you Jesus” line because that’s how I think of my relationship with Jesus nowadays. Co-creators has taken on a deeper meaning. Love is still the mysterious presence that created and sustains the universe AND somehow she shares life with little o’ me. Now that’s love. There was a time when I was desperately trying to follow Jesus and in a couple decades I’ll probably be carried by Jesus to be forever in the presence of Love. Until then I hope to walk with Jesus and my faith community as we seek to be Christ in the world. This year I didn’t talk about the “unload my mind” which always speaks peace to this INTP who’s in the FIVE energy space.
I also shared that aging forces one to acknowledge their limits. One of those limits I’m facing this birthday week is my relationship with alcohol. I let them know that it’s time for me to stop drinking. There’s much that I cling to and don’t want to leave / That I’m better off without I know. I said that it’s good for me to say this out loud to my community because I know that they support and encourage me no matter what. I’ve experienced that love over the almost 40 years I’ve been on and off part of GoWC-C – presently mostly on. I concluded by saying something like … I look forward to walking together with you all and Jesus into the next year. Thanks be to Love (I’m not sure I said “thanks be to Love” but I like to conclude with that so I add it now.)
It was important for me to confess to my faith community and friends, my need to stop drinking. When I say things out loud it somehow makes it more real … more than a good idea. The feeling of acceptance and support helps me accept myself when I feel embarrassed that I can’t handle alcohol. I thought I’d dealt with my shame and insecurity about being accepted. So I’m a bit surprised at how much saying goodbye to drinking, seems to have shaken my self identity. It’s so good to have a community of friends that love me even when I don’t believe them.
Case in point … later that Sunday we went to Rainbow Stage, an outdoor musical venue in Winnipeg, to hear Jesus Christ Superstar – with friends, Olaf and Angela. Olaf has become one of my BFFs and one of the reasons is that we share a challenging relationship with
alcohol and we often talk about it openly – maybe too much but that’s who we are. He’s been dry for almost 10 years now, with the help of the book 30 – Day Sobriety Solution by Jack Canfield and Dave Andrews. He introduced me to the book a couple years ago and I’ve done the “30 days…” a couple times already … third time will be the charm.
My previous “take it or leave it” relationship with alcohol wasn’t working very well so we’re breaking up for good. I’m done drinking alcohol. I may taste it once in a blue moon for social appropriateness and curiousity, but no more sitting around drinking while playing games, or chatting or happy hours or whatever other reason. It’s beginning to feel good not have to worry about concerning Linda or friends with how much I drink. I won’t have to regret the hours booze helped me check out, limiting my desire and ability to care for others and myself. It was fun, and I’ve shared some really good laughs and as I turn 71, it’s time to admit my limits and live more fully into my desire to be love all the time.
And now my many readers know too. This has been a great learning experience – a wonderful birthday present from Love; although it didn’t seem so when I was initially confronted. I could go on about the process and for now, suffice it to say – letting go of something that was, on reflection, too big a part of my life – is challenging and a big relief – now I’m over the stages of denial and anger. Like I said if you want to know more, you know what to do.
Blessings on us all as we seek to be the light and love we were meant to be; in this wonderful, crazy world we’ve been gifted with. Thanks be to Love.





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